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Welcome to Trope Tuesdays, a meme/series created by yours truly. Every Tuesday, the goal is to discuss, define, and explain one trope that you feel any range of emotion for, and then give your verdict on the trope. The trope can be one you dislike, love, feel indifference or annoyance towards, ones you think are problematic, or those tropes that just make you want to throw them out the moon door à la Petyr Baelish. You can learn more about Trope Tuesday here.

Since I’m an avid Romance reader, you might assume that I’m a fan of One True Love. Well, I’m here to burst your bubble. It is one of my MOST HATED tropes. I absolutely despise it and think it should rest in a fiery grave that burns on for eternity.

If you have consumed any type of media, then you’ve come across the One True Love trope. One True Love happens when two people met and they are soulmates and will only love each other forever and never find true love with anyone else etc etc.

I hate everything that One True Love stands for. The assumption that you’re only going to come across one person that you’ll truly love and be perfect for is wrong. I think it’s unfortunate that a lot of Romance perpetuates this idea that you can only truly love one person and that you can only be truly loved once.

There are a lot of messy, extremely damaging side tropes that come along with One True Love. One of the most common sayings paired up with One True Love is the phrase “You are my everything”. What I would give to never hear these words again… If someone tells you this, RUN FOR YOUR FUCKING LIFE. I’m not joking. You should never invest your whole life in another person. Putting all your worth into a relationship with someone who is human and will fuck up is setting yourself up for disaster and an unhealthy relationship.

My favorite “screw you” to this trope is found in His Dark Materials. In The Amber Spyglass, the couple of the series, Will & Lyra, know that they aren’t going to be together much longer. They come to an agreement that if they find someone else in their world, that they’ll marry them. They don’t resign themselves to wallow in misery forever and be shackled to someone they can’t be with. I loved that so much. And it didn’t take away from their love, which is the assumption a lot of people make when a couple aren’t soulmates~ or adhere to the One True Love playbook. Will & Lyra’s love was valid and real and spectacular and quite literally changed the universe, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t find love again in the future.

My Verdict: I will PROUDLY push this trope out the moon door to the death that it deserves. I will not miss you.


What do you think of One True Love? Do you buy in?


4 thoughts on “Trope Tuesday #15: One True Love

  1. 100% agree! One True Love is especially damaging in books written for teenagers. It’s statistically highly unlikely that you’ll meet your future spouse in high school – and even if you do, there’s no telling if you’ll actually be married forever. This trope was really harmful to me as a kid as well. My parents have always been happily married (for which I’m fortunate), so I grew up admiring and wanting that kind of love for myself. Problem is, real relationships that are healthy and fully developed take a long time, they take work, and they don’t always come along when you’re young.

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    1. lacyliteracy says:

      Exactly!!! It’s so sad to see in Young Adult.


  2. Thai C. says:

    I love the idea of one true love, soulmates and all that but that’s just it, it’s a nice idea but not reality. Those things doesn’t exist so it’s somewhat bothersome to read about it knowing it’s an illusion.

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