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Trope Tuesday is a meme/series created by yours truly. On Tuesdays, the goal is to discuss one trope that you dislike, love, are indifferent to, hate, currently annoyed by, think is problematic, want to kill with fire, or throw out the moon door (a la Petyr Baelish). You can learn more about Trope Tuesday here.

Inspired by a recent Twitter feud between members of my infamous non-bookish friend group, The Twitter Clique, over two very popular tropes, I created a poll on Twitter (the results of which you can see below) to see whether people liked Friends to Lovers more or Enemies to Lovers more. The discussion that happened really got me thinking about these two tropes and the strong opinions people tend to have related to them, which lead me to create the first every Trope Tuesday Trope-Off.

In Trope-Off editions of Trope Tuesday, I will be talking about two tropes that are often pitted against each other (which is the case today for Friends to Lovers vs Enemies to Lovers), or are very similar. I will give the definitions of each along with their Pros and Cons. In addition, I will give my verdict on the tropes being discussed. Let’s begin:

Friends to Lovers:

Friends to Lovers a classic to American Media. There are few popular series that don’t feature this trope at one point or another. As the name suggests, Friends to Lovers is when Friends (usually long time friends) start dating. You can check out uses of Friends to Lovers in Literature here on my Goodreads shelf for Friends to Lovers.


  • The couple has a previous history, which means that start out more developed as people and in their relationship.
  • After all those years (typically) of them pinning for each other, the feeling when they finally get together is so fulfilling.


  • While Friends to Lovers is sweet, sometimes it can cross into “bland” territory.
  • The conflict is always the basic “we don’t want to date cause it will ruin our relationship”. So overused & so nonsensical. I mean really? If your friendship gets ruined after your possible break up (which probably won’t happen because you know each other so well which is why you are friends) then maybe your friendship wasn’t that strong in the first place?

Enemies to Lovers:

Oh, Enemies to Lovers… There is so much I could say about this trope and its usage throughout various forms of media. Ultimately, Enemies to Lovers is a trendy trope that still manages to stand the test of time. As the name suggests, Enemies to Lovers is when enemies, whether they be mortal, casual, or somewhere in between, later become lovers. You can check uses of Enemies to Lovers in Literature here.


  • There’s always sexual tension. It is a given with this trope.
  • Hate to Love ships are always quality. Seeing them overcome the barrier the separates them, or learning that the reasons for hating them were just a misunderstand/misinterpretation is sooo nice.
  • So many possible hijinks.


  • The reasons for the characters becoming enemies can be so petty and so simple, that it makes you want to pull your hair out.
  • The chemistry/sexual tension can be over focused on instead of the development of the characters actual relationship.

For curiosity’s sake, I decided to make a poll on twitter to get some feedback on Friends to Lovers vs. Enemies to Lovers. The results where fairly decisive with Enemies to Lovers receiving a substantial win on Friends to Lovers:

My Verdict: 


I guess the world may never know….

But I want to hear what you guys think. Now is the time to forever immortalize your allegiance to one trope: Friends to Lovers or Enemies to Lovers.

What do YOU think? Which Trope is superior & why?

12 thoughts on “Trope Tuesday #8: Friends to Lovers vs Enemies to Lovers (Trope-Off Edition)

  1. I’m not sure I can say which trope is superior. I love both, sometimes it truly depends on if the author pulls it off haha. If I had to choose, though, I might pick enemies to lovers just because banter and tension is something I’m very weak for haha.

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    1. lacyliteracy says:

      Author execution definitely plays a large role.
      The tension is one of my favorite things about Enemies to Lovers!


  2. Thai C. says:

    Personally, I’m all for enemies to lovers haha. Friends to lovers make me uncomfortable at times. But it honestly depends on how the authors handles both situations.

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    1. lacyliteracy says:

      Yeah, I’ve been in situations were friends “wanted more”, but I didn’t so I’m wary of Friends to Lovers when one has been totally in love while the other hasn’t been at all. It can be kinda 🙃.

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  3. Friends to lovers can be super cute but I think enemies to lovers is much more entertaining 🙂

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  4. xtine says:

    I might be biased (considering I’m currently engaged to my coworker/friend-turned-lover), but I gotta say that as bland as it might be, the friends-to-lovers trope exists because it’s realistic. I generally go for realism in romance, and I haven’t read a book with enemies-to-lovers where the romance felt real to me. I think it’s just overplayed, cliched, and something I just can’t enjoy reading (anymore at least – maybe a few years back I would’ve said the opposite – apparently I’m old!). Although I’m totally willing to give enemies-to-lovers a chance, assuming it’s done well.

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  5. beane says:

    enemies to lovers obviously loser

    trope tuesday: thoughts on necromantic resurrection (clearly the most superior trope of all time)

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  6. i’m not really a huge fan of the enemies to lovers trope. like you’ve pointed out, there’s a lot of sexual tension and it kinda overshadows everything else. i definitely prefer the romantic side of ships rather than the sexual. i think it all comes down to personal preference (although, i do enjoy the odd enemies to lovers trope – so long as it’s really well done)

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  7. Josef says:

    You fools. It’s obviously “Friends to Enemies to Lovers”


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